“Can hypnosis improve your sex life?”
I received this instant message in bold red letters from a man in New York. Getting some work done on my computer, I didn’t have time to answer this question again.
I get instant messages and e-mails all the time asking me about hypno sex, the popular term used to describe sexual mind control. There are many books available on the subject, which are mostly geared toward men who think that they need help in the sexual department. I do not condone sexual mind control, as I believe it to be abusive and at times dangerous. Although a person will do under hypnosis only what they would do otherwise, hypnosis should never be used without the consent of the person being hypnotized.
Hypnosis can enhance sex in many ways, and it’s worth a try as long as you have ruled out any kind of physical problem with your medical doctor. If your problem is purely psychological, a visit to a good hypnotherapist will get you well on your way to a more enjoyable and satisfactory experience.
Hypnosis will help to decrease anxiety, increase confidence, lower inhibitions and heighten arousal. It can also be used to improve problems with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and impotence. Sometimes it will only take a few direct suggestions to improve your problem dramatically. However, you could require more intense therapy such as a regression session, which will take you to the root of the problem.
Always go to a qualified professional for hypnosis. There are many safety issues that a hypnotist has been trained to deal with, and an amateur has not. Just as you would only go to a medical doctor for medical treatments, you should think twice about allowing a non-professional to perform hypnosis on you.
Do you see a beautiful young woman, or an old hag?
Everybody sees things in a different way. A positive vision can make your life a wonderful positive experience, whereas a negative vision can make your life miserable and lonely. What would you prefer your life to be?
ACCEPTING HYPNOTIC SUGGESTIONS
I could see Joe's body totally relax. The signs were all there. He was in a deepened state of somnambulism (the deep working state of hypnosis). Having been in hypnosis before, he went under easily and quickly. I knew that as long as he was open to the suggestions I gave him, things would go well and we would accomplish our goals.
As I had explained to Joe in our pre-talk, success depended on his mental attitude, which had to be: "I like the suggestion. I know it's going to work for me!" ANY other attitude would prevent him from accepting the suggestions.
Joe was always in control over his acceptance or rejection of any suggestion. As long as he was a willing participant, I could easily guide him into a relaxed state. All hypnosis is actually self-hypnosis. Hypnotists are educated guides.
If I am allowed to be a guide, I will show the client how to place himself into a relaxed and pleasant state of hypnosis, and how to stay there until we are finished with our work. I will make the suggestions that he and I have already talked about, and he will decide whether to accept them or not. Afterwards, he will feel good, relaxed and have a desire to go under again.
After a person has been under hypnosis once, they become what is known as a "hypno-junkie". Hypnosis is such a beautiful, relaxed and desireable state, that it can be addictive.
So remember- IF you really want to be hypnotized AND you want to accept the suggestions, you WILL have great success with hypnosis. It all depends upon YOUR attitude.
Follow your own footsteps.
Learn from the rivers,
the trees and the rocks.
Honor the Christ,
the Buddha,
your brothers and sisters.
Honor your Earth Mother and the Great Spirit.
Honor yourself and all of creation.
Look with the eyes of your soul and engage the essential.
-the Inca Q'ero shamans
